![]() Here’s the thing: Anyone who refuses to take no for an answer with regard to the relatively minor requests probably isn’t great at respecting boundaries in general, which is helpful information to have! Because boundaries are about way more than just roller skating on a Saturday they can also be about your bodily autonomy, your money, your belongings, and your privacy. Saying no also gives you a chance to learn more about the people in your life and how they treat you. You can’t really be your happiest, most authentic self if you regularly abdicate this responsibility. ![]() And if you don’t decide how you want to spend your TME-and then protect those resources accordingly-other people will decide for you. Really! The case for saying noįirst of all your time, money, and energy (TME) are your most valuable resources how you choose to spend them is directly related to who you are and ultimately the life you want to live. In those situations-when you can technically go, but you just don’t want to-it’s actually OK to decline. But I’m talking more about the instances in which it’s not a super-close friend and/or the invite is relatively unremarkable.like, say, an invitation to attend a lecture or see a movie you’re not interested in, or to go out to dinner on a weeknight at a restaurant that’s across town and too pricey for your taste. You should definitely give your friend’s improv show or housewarming party real consideration before you reflexively refuse. Sometimes having close relationships means doing things that aren’t really your idea of a good time. ![]() Of course there are times you should genuinely consider their invite, such as when the person is a close friend or a pal who is inviting you to something that means a lot to them. ![]()
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